It’s much easier for a woman to be seductive than a man.
We have the curves and the lip gloss and the hair that falls over one eye. Woman are so sexualized these days that we almost have to try not to be seductive.
I was reading a man’s blog about how a woman’s attractiveness is totally controllable. This blog said that in order to attract a man women should always wear makeup, always wear heels and always wear tight clothing to show off their body because a guy wants to know what he’s getting.
What this man doesn’t realize is that some women don’t want to attract men like him. I’ll never be the girl who puts on tons of makeup and fake hair and wears vagina-length dresses with impossible heels out to a club to get attention. I get enough unwanted attention when my hair is up, no makeup and yoga pants thank you. This is New York after all. It’s annoying and I don’t want to deal with the stuff that would be said to me or the looks I’d get if I were to strut down the street in heels with my hair flowing and my ass just so slightly hanging out. Also, why would I want to give the losers on the street a free show? I wouldn’t. The kind of girls who dress for attention are the kind that don’t get it on a regular basis. My gorgeous supermodel friend feels the same way. I’ve been with her multiple occasions when strangers have professed their love for her on the street. She does not enjoy this. She dresses down and conservative to try to stop this kind of attention.
If a guy wants a girl who wears tons of makeup and false eyelashes everyday that’s fine.
But if feminine beauty is totally controllable why do men still place it so high? If a man has a woman with big fake boobs and big fake blonde hair and big fake injected lips on his arm all other guys are supposedly like, “Whoa lucky dude!” Yeah that dude is so lucky he found a woman who is willing to conform herself to generic hotness standards!
A guy I was dating commented that he had never seen me wear heels. I informed him that I only wear heels when I am getting paid to wear them at an acting or modeling job. Or maybe if I’m going out somewhere nice, but he’d never taken me anywhere nice.
That being said a woman’s power of seduction does not have to be sexual or physical. The man-blogs will have you believe otherwise but I’m sure someday I’ll graduate to they type of guy who wants me for more than my hot body and Jessica Rabbit hair.
Seduction happens all over the place; the bar, the subway and even at work. The most common place is certainly the bedroom. This got me thinking that I’m pretty sure I can equate bed sizes to relationship growth we all typically follow. Hear me out.
The Twin Bed
This was my first bed size and the size that most colleges have as a standard when you dorm. The twin is a lonely bed to be in, but still seems to be comforting. I relate it to childhood. I wasn’t one of those fancy kids that got a full size bed right away. In fact, I opted for the twin. Was this a sign of things to come? Would I be lonely forever until I made physical room for someone in my sleep space? Let’s be honest, we’ve all done the college sleepovers attempting to fit two people into a twin. This was never a good idea and while it made for forced spooning, it also created sweat that neither came from exercise or ‘exercise.”
Officially a step up. Now your bed says, “Hey, come on in. I have room for you, but are hoping you like to cuddle because I’ll definitely wrap my leg around you when you are sleeping.” A shared space that still provides some independence. It also finally says I’m an adult. I’m still looking for other ways to say that in my every day life.
You must be married, right? It was probably the first anniversary present you bought each other to signify ‘paper.’ You are newly weds and the bed is just tooooo big for you Goldilocks. Romance is alive and well. Hopefully.
Ah, the bed I aspire to have. You don’t even know that someone is sleeping next to you. Maybe you even let your dog sleep with you at this point. (Just an FYI, I will never let that happen.) A King can be deceiving though. Maybe you have reached financial success to have the space for such a large and expensive purchase. Or, are you headed for divorce taking the first subconscious step to now sleep as closely to each other?
Yes, this is entirely my interpretation, but you have to admit that bed sizes do seem to coincide with where we are in our relationships. For me, I just want to find someone (whom I have feelings for as well) who wants to be in my bed because I am in it, not because they are purely trying to seduce me.